About Nick Gray

Howdy, and welcome to my corner of the internet.

I wrote a book called The 2-Hour Cocktail Party. James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, said my book is “a must read for anyone who wants to host a great event. Practical, actionable, and useful.” See all the reviews on Amazon here (4.7 from 675 ratings).

Nick Gray, right, smiling next to a friend at an event, both wearing name tags
Me (right) at an Alpha School event. Name tag on, as usual.

How I got here

I’ve been doing “business stuff” for a long time. In middle school, I designed simple websites for Texas companies. It felt neat to be 14 years old and making $70 per hour.

In high school, I started a web hosting company called vs3 Web Services. I got really lucky: if you searched on Yahoo! for the phrase “cheap web hosting,” my page was the first one to show up. That success helped pay for my college.

I went to Wake Forest University in North Carolina. I was a Presidential Scholar in Entrepreneurship and a member of the Lilting Banshees Comedy Troupe.

One project that I worked on in college got a lot of press: BuddyGopher was like a blog for away messages on AOL Instant Messenger. We had thousands of daily users and full-page features in USA Today, The Washington Post, and more.

I tried to build BuddyGopher into a big company, including moving to India after college, but that didn’t work out. I still learned a lot. I love India. In 2011, I produced a Bollywood music video.

Nick Gray smiling, in glasses and a teal sweater
Hi, that’s me.

Anyhow. Back in my 20s, I helped build and grow our family business. My father started Flight Display Systems in the basement of our house. The company made avionics equipment for private jets and military aircraft.

I joined right after college. I helped him hire his first employees, then we grew it to 75 people. My father had all the ideas and industry experience, but I led our hiring, marketing, and international sales. My mother was our CFO. It really was a family business! Then we sold it.

Please note: I have spent the last 28 years habitually over-sharing my life on the internet. As such, you will find hundreds of unflattering photographs and video clips of me. I make no apologies for this. But trust that I will be extremely charming, and perhaps even slightly attractive, when we meet in real life.

But back to my story.

Nick Gray in a headset and visitor badge, smiling in front of conveyor belts inside an Amazon warehouse
Exhibit A: me on a tour of an Amazon warehouse, headset and all.

I used to hate museums. That’s why I started Museum Hack: to make museums more fun.

Museum Hack

I spent my 30s in the hustle and bustle of New York City, launching and growing Museum Hack.

My company was featured in a popular TEDx talk and written about in The New York Times. Then I grew it to a multi-million dollar business.

In 2019, I sold Museum Hack in an interesting way. It starts with a juicy takeover; read the story here.

Austin

I left New York City in 2020. I never thought I’d say that, because I considered myself a real New Yorker. But now I love my new life.

In early 2021, I moved to Austin, Texas. I bought two paddle boards, I’ve started a new business, and I swim in Barton Springs Pool almost every week. I run a small family office, too. I hope to give more philanthropically. I want to make the world better in certain ways.

A few years ago, I rented out an entire indoor water park for my 40th birthday. That was fun. I got engaged, too. But please don’t tell Lauren that I’m comparing her to an indoor water park.

I wonder what I’ll do with the rest of my 40s. I have some ideas! Like working on this PatronView project to help museum fundraising stuff. And starting a family. But let’s see.

Nick Gray in sunglasses leaning out the window of his red Tesla, with “VROOM” drawn across the blue sky behind him
Me and my Model Y. I wrote up 8 things that surprised me.
  1. Tokyo Blind Date

    I went on a super viral Tokyo Blind Date. It’s a wild story that got 25M+ impressions.

    Nick Gray running across a busy Tokyo crosswalk holding hands with his date, whose face is covered by a question mark
  2. My magnum opus

    Finally released my magnum opus, The 2-Hour Cocktail Party. It’s a step-by-step guide to building big relationships by hosting small parties. I think it’s the best thing I’ve made in 10+ years.

  3. Settled in Austin, Texas

    I love it here.

  4. Left New York City after 13 years

    Wow.

  5. Sold Museum Hack
  6. ELLE.com’s 41 Most Eligible Bachelors

    I made the list. I was ranked 40 out of 41, so I guess I’m not the absolute worst.

  7. Museum Hack

    Museum Hack gives museum tours for people who don’t like museums. (Founder, tour guide.)

  8. BollyBrook

    Brooklyn meets Bollywood music video. (Producer, creator.)

  9. Williamsburg parties

    New York magazine: Meet Nick Gray, Thrower of ‘Culturally Significant’ Williamsburg Parties. They were tea parties (not the political kind).

  10. Flight Display Systems

    Our family business. We sold it in 2014.

  11. BuddyGopher

    Founder. Full-page articles in USA Today and The Washington Post.

  12. American Pie 2

    I was an actor in the movie. You can see my six-word performance on the DVD, in the deleted scenes section. I also got a junket interview with Eugene Levy!

  13. vs3 Web Services

    The web hosting business I started in high school.

I’ve been featured in

You can click any of these logos to read more about things I’ve done. (I don’t like unlinked sources.)

  • The Wall Street Journal
  • New York Magazine
  • USA Today
  • The Washington Post
  • TEDx
  • Newsweek
  • Lifehacker
  • Chicago Tribune
  • ELLE

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